Is my 15yr old son gay/transgender?

With the way that popular style is now days, it is really easy for people to express themselves creatively in the ways that they dress. The "emo look" is popular right now, and it used to be a more secluded kind of thing, but now more and more people who wouldn't usually identify as emo have started adopting some of the clothes and looks that emo kids wear. Anyway, what I mean to say is that he could be dressing emo without actually calling himself emo. He might be gay or transgendered. You can't always judge that based just on what someone wears, but it can be a clue. A lot of boys care a good deal what other guys think of them, and for some, being called gay is one of the worst things that someone can say to them, so they go to great lengths to look like all of the other guys, and fit in. The fact that your son is courageous enough to be himself no matter what anyone else says to him could be an indication that he might be gay (or it might not). I think that it wouldn't really do much harm to ask him, but only if you did it in the right way. He might be really worried about what you would think about him, and really want to tell you, but be dreading it at the same time cause he doesn't know what your reaction will be. Start off by casually mentioning gay or transgendered people in every day conversation, and saying good things about them. At this point don't direct anything at or about your son. Do this for a little while so that he knows that you would be supportive if he choose to tell you, and see if he does. If he doesn't tell you, he might not be gay, or might not be ready to come out, and you shouldn't rush him, or seem to assume anything. The main thing is to let him know how much you love and support him no matter what.